PREMIUM What people don’t know about affairs… until it’s too late James, a chief executive officer of a government parastatal, was in love with his secretary. Saturday Magazine Just now Listen

Depending on your values, you have two options: you can agree with your second partner to part ways amicably, even if it means paying damages; or, if this is not possible, you can make the relationship public and declare polygamy.

How do you extricate yourself when you are already deeply involved in a second relationship, and you are married?

Article James was a deeply disturbed man, traumatised by the pleasure and demands of two concurrent love affairs.